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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No of course not. It’s selfish if he prioritizes family #2 over family #1. Unfortunately, that seems to be par for the course. [/quote]

I'm a guy and I know this is going to be an unpopular opinion but there's just no way I could love an existing child that wasn't mine equally as a child that was mine.  I'm not saying kid #2 gets a higher standard of living than child #1 or that child #1 gets treated poorly but everything just seems like it would be so different.  With the bio child I'm there for all of it and can begin bonding with the child from birth whereas I wouldn't have that same experience with an existing child.  That's not to say I couldn't grow to also love the existing child but I couldn't honestly say that it would be the same.[/quote]

The honesty is appreciated and to be honest this is how the majority of men feel. [/quote]

Its not how all men feel.  Some feel like this, some don't.  It is different having a step-child vs. your own especially with a very involved Dad but the 1st child/ren have a father and its not the stepdad's job to replace dad.  [/quote]

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