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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks for the responses.

I don't know why PP and others are condemning me for spanking - I don't do that. It's a suggestion by others on here. A suggestion I'm not taking by the way!!!

I'd reserve spanking for an extreme situation and it certainly wouldn't be appropriate for most of our problems here.

There is no doubt in my mind that not being in preschool and not being outside enough is an issue as you all have mentioned (but I think I needed to hear it again).

I work about 10-15 hours a week. It's very doable if he is in school in the morning or naps or if he played by himself a bit.

He really doesn't like being outside for very long except when there is snow. Last year I set up baby pool and he'd go in for 2 minutes and want to go inside. Of course we stayed out anyway for a few hours. We eat lunch outside which he loves and play as much as we can but I have back problems from lifting him. He is 50 pounds and very tall so not overweight but built like a tank.  When we go to a park, I need my husband there or at least have him on call so he is able to come help if my son refuses to go home. (That has happened a few times where he refused to leave and my husband had to carry him out kicking and screaming.)

When he naps for 1-2 hours, the household runs so well. He's in a good mood and  I can spend that time helping my son who is home for school (and will be through the year) and get dinner started or do a little work. Without the nap, I feel like I can't get outside with him a lot because I'm always trying to do one more thing.

I'm not vaccinated yet (but will be get shot #1 this week and my husband has had only one shot). We have a grandparent we need to help so Pre-K and daycare aren't great options right now but he will be going in the fall for sure if Covid remains stable.

I have learned here that despite my best efforts, our outside time is just not sufficient and now that it's warmer, I'm just going to have to try to spend mornings outside even if he complains. If that can get me some time while he naps, it would be very worthwhile.

The sheer number of you who mentioned such extensive outdoor time was eye opening for me. I pretty much thought an hour or two a day was enough even if it clearly wasn't ideal. My older child was in school. sports, music and gym classes but he was just an easier kid to take places and Covid wasn't a concern.

Thank you all again.

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