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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I feel for you. Ignore the posters who are being so nasty. Your feelings are your feelings.

Try to focus less on your colleagues and more on yourself. What do you feel when you look at your own home? Proud of what you’ve achieved? Proud of making balanced choices? Warm fuzzies, because you are surrounded by sentimental things? If a Wolf range was the most important thing to you, could you make that happen? (I’m guessing yes.) So since it apparently isn’t, just remember that you value your retirement account or emergency fund or annual beach trip or wherever you are choosing to put the money instead.

And I get it - my house is older and only partially updated. It certainly doesn’t meet the standards of today’s large new builds. But it is what it is, and I try to appreciate what I have and what I’ve actively chosen with my home and other life choices. [/quote]

I could have written the above.  I also think a PP makes a valid point, it stings a little bit because in your mind these people are 'peers', so it feels like you're missing something. It's different than having a HHI of $150K and being envious of the huge mansion owned by tech millionaires or families with two equity partners in a law firm.

PP above has some good advice, and I follow it myself since almost every single one of our friends has a new-ish build home two to three times the size of ours.  We've consciously made a decision not to move, but at the same time I do feel a bit of envy.  This past year spending so much time in our house I've really focused on the things we can afford that improve the feel of my home to me.  We repainted two rooms, we finally replaced that old rug in the family room. I updated throw pillows. We bought a fire pit for the patio.  We are replacing the front door.  None of this is super exciting or terribly expensive, but they've moved us towards a space that I enjoy even more.  It will never be our dream home, but I can make it the best that we can within our means.

We could afford a larger house, but prioritize savings for long term security at the expense of short-term things.  For us, I know it's the right call, but yes on a day to day level it isn't always easy.
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