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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve noticed the exact opposite of the co-parenting issue. Most men with kids are either weekend-only dads, [b]or their kids live in another state entirely and they see them only a couple times a year[/b].[/quote]

OP here. Now that is really sad. I honestly would not want to be with a man who places such little value on being with his children.[/quote]

Male 50s:  I have kids 50%

PS OP sometimes fathers might not have so much custody because exDW/judge ie not their choice [/quote]

I’ve never met a man where it wasn’t their choice.

Most often I’ve seen they move out of state/country to further their career.

Sometimes I’ve met men who claim they have “no idea!” why they have only weekend custody and blame the xW, but then it becomes pretty clear why (they don’t work, or work too much, or have poor parenting judgement, or they really just don’t want to deal with kids).

Either way, I don’t buy the whole “xW/judge” thing. My dad was given weekends only when I was a kid, which was very common back then. He busted his @$$ to get custody - moved to be closer to us, highly involved in school and our lives in general, stepped down from a very lucrative career to spend more time with us.

None of the men I know without custody do anything like that. They just shrug their shoulders and don’t try to actually change any of the behavior that caused them to lose it in the first place. I’ve heard a lot of BS excuses like “I have to put on my own mask first!” Or “the best thing I can do is make a lot of money for my kids!” Or they want nothing to do with the difficult years of early childhood, but suddenly when their kid is a teen and can be a buddy instead of a child, they suddenly want more custody and are shocked when mom and the kid don’t want it (and then blame mom of course). [/quote]

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