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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]15 years married, 20 years together and our sex life is very infrequent and stale.  Maybe 2x a month on a good month but usually once and only because he pushes for it.  Sometimes I enjoy it but I could go without. I am not sexually attracted to him but it is not his fault, he's attractive but it feels like we are friends and platonic

He always tries to spice it up but I just want to be left alone. Quickies are fine.[/quote]

DW here and about the same timeline as PP. I am just not interested in sex with DH and I want to be left alone. I'll have duty sex with him but it's horrible for me. We'll have sex and I'll be happy and carefree for a little while b/c I don't have to have sex and won't need to fend DH off. Then I start getting anxious as the days go by and the time for sex draws nearer. I used to love having sex with DH, but years of life together, stupid marital arguments, health issues and 2 kids later, I just don't want to!!! End of vent. [/quote]

This is exactly how I feel.  I'm really pushing for us to find some resolution to get sex elsewhere while keeping the stability.  I don't know if it's possible, but it's my hope.[/quote]

Ladies you don't seem to grasp how most normal men who wind up in a low sex marriage operate. We KNOW you are uninterested!! That's fine, no offense, no man is going to take that personally. Women just are generally low libido, and sadly the few who aren't... because marriage?...  often become uninterested in their own husbands.

This is a universal gender problem that is a thousand years old. The well accepted solution of course is DADT for him. It's easier if you formally grant the hall pass, saves him the trouble of "sneaking" around.[/quote]

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