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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I know exactly what you are talking about.

My in-laws do this too.  I think it stems from anxiety and poor social skills.  Even worse, they ruminate over normal happenings so much that it'll get followed up by an email a week later: "When we were visiting you, we noticed the baby touching his ears.  We didn't want to say anything, but have you had him checked for an ear infection?"

They stand right.next.to.us when serving food or cooking.  They comment on every.single.thing that our kids do.  No pound of weight gain or loss goes unnoticed, they'll inquire about super personal things (FIL asked if tore badly from my vaginal delivery), and they seem to delight in worse-case-scenarios ("I heard you say your car needs an oil change.  Are you prepared for the potential it may needs thousands of dollars in extra work?")

There is no reading the room.  There is no concept of personal space.  Nothing is off-limits.  Visits are excruciating. [/quote]

It is comforting to me to read of all of this - it seems that I am not alone. May I ask if your family is from a different culture? I suspect some of these behaviors may be due to cultural differences.[/quote]

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