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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thanks for all the suggestions.  The morning of the 24th or the 26th sounds like  a good idea -- I think I will suggest that.  And I will be very clear that I am keeping it simple -- I am so very tired of cooking and cleaning.

I have gone back and forth about whether DH's request is reasonable.  I usually am the first to call DH out if he is being an ass.  Which he sometimes is.  BUT, I kind of agree with him this time, which is why I bothered posting.
Of course I love my brother and adore the kids -- but it is EXHAUSTING to have them over and they come over alot -- like every other weekend.  Eight month old twins, a 2 year old and a 4 year old -- just picture it.  Total and complete chaos.  I am a working mom, and I like to enjoy time with my children too -- and no one enjoys time with anyone with the families combined .  It is just constant refereeing and trying  to keep everyone alive and uninjured.  No conversations are had.  I never even feel any special bonding  moments because it is all so chaotic and crazy and I am always serving food or changing diapers or taking away toys.
And my younger one -- the 5 year old  -- always, always, ends up in time out.  There is just no avoiding it.  He loses patience with his cousins and has a melt down.  And I know he has to learn to be in this family, but I feel bad that I am constantly subjecting him to all of these people in his space so often.  [/quote]

OP, you still don't get it. You've gone back and forth "about whether DH's request is reasonable?" Are you kidding?  It is his HOME and what he wants to do in regards to things like this better resonate with you as "reasonable," whether or not you agree with him all of the time. At least if you want to stay married.[/quote]

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