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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Also, put the special toys away when the rougher cousins come over. How assy you are to this young family. 8 month old twins and two other kids? They probably look forward to the calm oasis of their aunt's house all year. :([/quote]

I disagree.  Consideration should be a two way street and you don't get a free pass cause you're family.  If I were hauling my four young kids to your house making a mess, my kids grabbing every toy their cousin just got for Christmas, every holiday, saying "oh here is my side of green beans " and assumed you loved this and wanted to do this cause we are family ... Really ?  I mean if this was your best friend wouldn't you say something like here, let me clean up, it is the least we could do, or I know it could be a lot, why don't you come over our house this year, it will be tight, but I'm sure you would like to kick up your feet and only worry about bringing the green beans.  Or say, hey, would it be easier to meet a little later in the day so the kids have time to open their gifts and put up toys they don't want their cousins to possibly break - you know little hands are quick.  If best friend pooh poohed and said, no, it's actually easier if you come here etc that is one thing but to not ask or offer?  Maybe I'm projecting now but being family does not mean I must be a doormat or not get the same kind of consideration you would give a friend.  It took me awhile to stand up to my family and I realize like anything else in life, people respect you more when you show backbone, they may not agree but they know where you stand, and in the end they normally stop treating you that way when they know you won't get away with it.  If they are truly a family is everything, as they think it is fine to expect you to do everything, they will "forgive" you when you draw the line and you will move forward.[/quote]

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