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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Seriously? It's Christmas! So what if toys get messed up? You're meant to spend it together. Look at the big picture and be grateful.[/quote]

And I will say my fondest memories of Christmas was with my mom, dad, and sisters.  My dad liked the quiet Christmas with just us.  The crazy thing is that my parents argued a lot and didn't agree on much so to be honest it was nice to have one day a year of no drama and just happy memories to look back on in childhood.  It wasn't even about the toys themselves, though of course we loved toys.  It was about having our tradition and being able to stay in pajamas till noon.  My sisters and I would set the alarm for 6am and giggle and wake each other up.  My parents worked together thru the night getting the gifts ready and were still sleeping when we would call ourselves tip toeing down the stairs (sure we sounded like a stampede)  We would be halfway thru the candy in the stocking when my parents would come down and ask what Santa brought.  Our parents would be in the living room watching us play and just enjoy ourselves.  My dad would insist on taking pictures of everyone and of course we were still in pj with wrapping paper everywhere. We would eagerly await our dad to open his gifts because it was also his birthday and we wanted to see how he liked the Old Spice cologne that we had picked out.  Who knows if he really liked it but he was always so happy and made a big deal about his gifts from the girls.  We had no place we had to hurry to, no rush to clean up the house, no rush to get ready, just this one day of relaxing and spending time together, parents attention focused on us, and miraculous family harmony.

That all said, I realize it is a balancing act of traditions.  Find out from DH if he would be willing to go to your brother's house and if it is the burden of playing host or him wanting to be at home just you guys. If it's playing host, you can suggest brother host it this year and you alternate.  Be honest that you love seeing them but you want to get a break too on Christmas.  If he complains his place is too small, say you don't mind it being cozy.  If DH wants it to be just you guys, that is lot tougher when your family is local.  You will have to work out something where you alternate like one year your house, next year brother house, and following year you don't go anywhere and get together day after or before but likely with you hosting.  Or that Christmas Eve is the big get together so you can have Christmas Day to stay in pj all day if you want.  There isn't just one way to "do Christmas".  The key is to find a way to get together that everyone will enjoy themselves and be flexible about traditions.[/quote]

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