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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - I don't really need a lot of gratitude here. Probably a bad title. What I didn't need is instruction on how I can do it better next time. But dinner was good, we had a lot of laughs. (The wine helped!) [/quote]

To me it just sounds like she was passing on a tip, not telling you what you could’ve done better. It’s likely you didn’t know about the bargain; it seems benign. I’m pretty sensitive but this wouldn’t have bothered me. Maybe it’s a long-standing issue - being told how to do things better, or feeling unappreciated - so you were more sensitive? Perhaps you don’t usually do the cooking and it was a significant moment?

Regardless, I’m glad you enjoyed your dinner together.[/quote]

Cooking dinner wasn't a significant moment -- (again - just spaghetti, not like I was going gourmet) -- but I probably am sensitized to her need to offer people (frequently me) tips on how they could be doing things her way. We're wired differently. If someone does something nice for me - even if it's very trivial - I can't imagine suggesting how they might have done it better.

Still, not a big deal. Just a comment that hit me the wrong way as I was feeling pretty worn out at the end of a work week. I knew it would pass, and it did. Venting a bit here helped me get past it without turning the small thing into a Big Deal that would've made our evening much less pleasant. [/quote]

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