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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] No way this can be real? You are an attorney and aren’t looking out for your own financial interests? You live apart from your husband and he wants a divorce and you are fine waiting 3 years so you can earn more so he can screw your over? You are fine planning on living in a house after you divorce where he can come and go and owns 50% of it? Where do you want to live permanently? You need to move there with your son now or stay where you are if you like where you live and find for divorce and custody. [/quote]

OP here. Sadly, this is my true story :-( I would not want to go through with a divorce now. [b]I could not stand the drama[/b]. Again, I[b] could not afford a decent home on my own in that very expensive area. [/b][/quote]

NP. You don't have to live in that very expensive area. You are creating excuses.

[b]I also don't know why you can't study for the bar. I know lots of lawyers and not one of them studied non-stop daily for 8-10 hours. They had children, and jobs to support their families.

It seems like you enjoy drama.[/quote][/b]

you sound like the husband. I am an attorney and know many attorneys. yes people take other bars while working and having families. but not many I know have taken a bar while working basically full time and having a young child home full time and helping that child with online school alone, without anybody else's support. if this is so easy, then OP can ship the child to her husband, who can work and take care of the child at the same time while OP study full time for the bar.

however, i agree with you that OP is making excuses. OP, you dont need to move to the expensive area. your DH is treating you like s$it openly and as a free full time nanny. the second he does not need the nanny anymore is going to kick you our of the 50% owned house (which I am sure you will have to help paying for) and be done with you. he is actually telling you in your face that he wants you to kill yourself adding the bar to your job and the child care he does not help you with so he does not have to give you any money. divorce him now and live where you like and want. he will have to pay child support so at least he will help pay for childcare. definitely do not move to an expensive are where you cannot live other than at the mercy of a POS who can't wait to get rid of you. your self esteem seems already pretty shot. [/quote]

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