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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here again - thanks for all the feedback.  To the pp who asked out of curiosity what I brought - one year it was mashed potatos and another year I brought green beans.

[quote=Anonymous]Some follow up questions - how big is the kitchen and how many people are generally in it (excluding you)? I'm just wondering if its a space issue. Could you still socially interact with them (i.e. sit at the breakfast bar) and talk without getting in mix? I would be bothered by it too, but my MIL generally does EVERYTHING herself because no one but her can do it the way she wants. It's annoying, but that's my MIL. For the holidays my family cooks together, his doesn't so I just accept its a different way of doing holiday dinners.[/quote]

to answer some other questions, it's not like MIL/SIL "invite" everyone in the kitchen and exclude me, it's more like DIL#1 comes and has sweet potatos so she's in the kitchen, putting the toppings (marshmellows? nuts?  who knows what), needs to heat it, so she puts it in the oven.  DIL#2 brings the beans or some other side dish - she'll bring the beans in a bag, goes in the kitchen to transfer them to the serving dish, heat them (or cook them?  not sure) and is focusing on her brought dish, MIL and SIL are making the main dish - Turkey and stuffing.  So they are all technically working on their own dishes (not invited, but not kicked out either) and since I didn't bring a dish, there's no excuse for me to go in the kitchen.  Actually, last year, I kind of forced it and said I REALLY wanted to help.  MIL sent me to make sure the dining room table was completely set (they had already set it before we arrived) so even when I push it, they send me out of the kitchen.

Thanks everyone for the advice.  I like the idea of just getting a book and just reading - I might feel a little rude, though, reading during a holiday.  I could just continue doing what I end up doing - playing with my kids and just spending more time with them.

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They are rude. Bring your book and enjoy yourself, that will miff your mil more than anything.[/quote]

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