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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Those of you with ailing parents who you have cared for — how old were they when they began to have significant enough health and/or cognitive problems that you assumed a caregiver role (to some degree)?

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By late 70s they got way more nutty, entitled, needy and sometimes just plain mean. There may have been some issues mid 70s, but late 70s is where we were detecting dementia before the screeners did. Then low and behold a year or 2 or 3 later, no longer passing the screen.

For me, it's not the hands on part as much as it is the complete emotional drain of dealing with bat shit crazy behavior. They will get into fights with complete strangers, antagonize their doctors, get lost driving and then cannot live in reality that all is not OK. Taking away car keys can be hell. Getting them to accept help-more hell.  People compare it to toddlers, but in my case it is far worse. Toddlers are cute and they love their mommies and they don't throw verbal knives at you beyond the occasional "I hate you" if they can't have another cupcake. You finally get the parent to try meds so they can calm the F down and accept help and things are smooth for a few weeks/months and then crazypants decides she is totally fine and should not be on meds and she starts verbally abusing everyone around her and showing her racism. Sorry...I am venting a bit much, but it is just a horrible time if the parents are difficult and entitled.[/quote]

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