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[quote=Anonymous]I don’t get it op. I’d understand being mad if half the neighborhood kids came by and your husband and/or son gave them babybells, and I’d be upset if nobody ate the babybells, but why on earth would you buy food for just one person and tell another member of the family they can’t eat that food.

Don’t use “thrifty” as a rationale, if you have financial anxiety, (and it sure sounds like you do) then you need to address it.

I am married to someone who has financial anxiety, I posted about it on another thread.  It took years to figure this out because our society values “thriftiness” “being frugal” “saving for the future” “paying things off” and “buying what you can afford”.  I blame this on too many stories of Grandpa buying a car when he was 21 and drove it for the rest of his life, or hearing too much about a grandma who needed meat so she went out and shot a deer, something you can’t do if you live in urban or suburban America.

You need to realize that money will still be there… unless you or your husband is doing things to ensure that it won’t be, gambling, drugs, loaning money to random people, investing with the guy who says he has a bridge in Brooklyn that he’s happy to sell you...  Your husband eating babybells won’t financially ruin the family.  The Great Depression did a whole lot of good for the country in terms of safety nets and how banks work.  It’s not perfect, but it’s way better then it was literally 100 years ago.

You can always get a membership to Costco or Sams Club, situations like yours are exactly why people do this.  Costco hass the kind of cheese my husband loves.  I don’t care much about that type of cheese, but it makes him so happy and it’s something I can get for him.

Talk to someone trained in what I’d call financial trauma if you need to.  Lots of people get anxious about money because of things that happened in their childhood, this was real common with the kids growing up in the Great Depression generation, and it is probably common to people who remember 2008.

Finally, think about how you treat your husband.  My husband thinks that maybe all your love and care is going to your kid because “kids come first”.  Up to a point this is true, though your husband also needs love and care.  Yes, he should be able to make his own luch.. though you could also make him a lunch.  Your kid can probably make his own luch too if he is aware enough to have a high preference for babybells.

Or, you can just buy more d**mn babybells and enjoy the blessings of a kid and husband.

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