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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Some examples: spending the day on a long bike ride, going to museums with family members, out to lunch with a friend I haven’t seen for a while, spending a weekend somewhere, and going on a business trip (in the old days). [/quote]

If he's greeting you when you come home and asking a general "How was the museum" or "Did you have fun"'or something,mother he's a polite and caring person. For the business trip, maybe a bigger greeting and an additional "how did your presentation go" or some such. Do you want him to ask you what kind of shampoo the hotel had?

What do you want? Genuinely asking, for the above scenarios: what do you want? [/quote]
What I want is an interesting back-and-forth discussion. Maybe like I have with my women friends or a couple of my guy friends. [/quote]

1) it’s not fair to ask you husband to be just like your friends. 
2) arrive at your friends’ houses at all hours of the day and see if they drop everything to gab with you[/quote]

This. If my DH goes out without me I do ask him questions when he gets home (how was the bike ride? Where did you go?) and he might tell me about an animal or person he saw. But, that's it. Here is not much of an interesting back and forth because you are with your husband 24/7 right now.

When I go out he might ask me how my walk was and I'll tell him. I might volunteer more info because he isn't actually that interested (true story: he cares, but he doesn't REALLY care. Just like I care about where he went but I don't REALLY care. He would object to me saying that he doesn't REALLY care, but his inattention belies his true feelings. And that's OK)

He ISN'T your girlfriend. Men are different. He wants a kiss and a hug and a short "it was great" and that's it. What kind of back and forth can you actually expect from the person you see everyday? Really, unless things are in upheaval, most everything is routine. And I'm sorry, but bickering over the best table and chairs to buy for the porch is the best back and forth you are going to get right now.[/quote]

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