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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is very confusing to a 3 year old.  They are just starting to master the differences in body parts.  I don’t think the nanny is being age appropriate.  The answer is vague and leaves the kid confused.  I know my four year old would immediately want to know which ones don’t have which body  parts and could just imagine him pointing to everyone he sees and asking me loudly whether that one has a vagina or not.  [/quote]

[b]Imagine the boy had said "Women have babies." and then the nanny said "Well, some women have babies and some women do not." Something tells me you would not have concerns about this being too confusing, [/b] and it's the exact same concept. The way preschoolers learn to think beyond black and white is through experience of things that are not black and white.

And the way to handle a child asking in public whether certain people have vaginas is to say "That's a private part. We don't talk about private parts in public."

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I think this would be too confusing.  You don’t talk to three year olds like that.  If they say, “dogs say ‘woof, woof’” you don’t correct them or discuss the different types of barks a dog might make.  
Something tells me that you don’t know a lot of three year olds.  [/quote]

Why is it bad for a kid (or anyone) to be confused? I think this is a good lesson that things are not always black and white. I doubt thinking about it will keep the 3 year old awake at night or cause any issues for him. It may just be something that he thinks or asks about again later and that’s ok.[/quote]

Lots of things are confusing.  Kids are still trying to make sense of the world.  They are trying to put things into categories that they can understand so that they can gain a little confidence to go out into the world.  
And of course it would cause issues for a kid if, instead of making the world simpler for them, every time they had a question you gave a confusing and nebulous answer.     
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