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[quote=Anonymous]I can see both sides to this.

I’m a SIL with a new baby, and my husbands sister drives me batty. She’s constantly giving me parenting tips and advice when she doesn’t have children. My baby is only two months old and I’m so over saturated with unsolicited advice about everything, from nap times to diapers to strollers. I’m really happy with how things are going for me, and it can be tiresome to act enthusiastic every single time somebody tries to help me parent. Perhaps you’ve been doing this for three years and she’s tired, or perhaps she was always this curt and always needs to be right, like another poster suggested. Only you can know that.

The toys...I get that too, honestly. My husbands family is a big gift family, and I did not come from a family like that. I was raised to not attach emotions or sentimental value to gifts. We never gave my parents or our siblings gifts. Not because we didn’t love each other, but it’s just how we did things. It’s taken me over a decade with his family to fully participate in the extravagant exchanges over the holidays and I’m still not fully comfortable with receiving gifts all the time for no reason. Additionally, my husband and I really don’t want certain types of toys. We don’t want hundreds of plastic and battery toys, we’d rather a few high quality toys that will last. Quality over quantity. Were you giving her crappy toys to make yourself feel good while she’s stuck with an overflowing toy bin, or is she just rude and shallow? Again, only something you can know.

All I know is that I’ve been on the SIL side, and it’s an equally frustrating dynamic from that perspective. [/quote]

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