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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I shifted my whole perspective on ambition.

I thought I would for sure be a private school parent invested in giving my child the best of everything. But now I find that sort of striving and wealth accumulation kind of... gross.

I just want my child to have a happy, low-pressure childhood filled with simple pleasures. And I want that for other kids too. Now as a parent, I find the haves versus have nots even more upsetting. Why should some kids get so much and some get so little? I think the more socialist countries have it right with universal daycare access and tax-funded higher ed that's accessible for everyone.

I've also dramatically scaled back my own professional ambition. My intense job is no longer worth it. My kid doesn't need what it can buy as much as they need me.[/quote]

This this this.  Having grown up in this area, I know the pressures that can get to kids (I also grew up in a traditional Asian household where it was, let's say, a lot of REALLY tough love), and I have to constantly remind myself to stay grounded and keep my daughter chill.

Other than that, I still feel myself.  I was extremely scared to NOT feel like myself after I had my daughter.  I still keep my hobbies to make sure to check in with myself- I think that's important.  I know one family member who was a SAHM and after her kids left the house for school and became an empty nester, it became really depressing to see what she was going through.  Not saying that all SAHMs will do this, but she completely lost herself and it truly scarred me.[/quote]

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