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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't know that you need to explain anything to your son. Let his Dad do that part, and be there for him to talk to. I would ask a lot of open ended questions "how do you feel about that?" Validate his feelings, "It sounds like you are feeling..." but don't try to fix it or over explain.[/quote]

[b]Mom needs to be there for the conversation. Otherwise the kid might worry that Mom doesn’t know.[/b]

Unfortunately the douchebag Dad has created a situation where the only option is to pretend this is normal and everyone is fine with it. That’s a good short-term solution for the kid. Long term it likely means the kid will have commitment and fidelity issues. [/quote]

This is what happened to me. I was protecting their dad for all of the reasons people have listed above, but he got sloppy with his timeline and the kids figured out the "new girlfriend" was someone he'd been seeing during our marriage. That information was really challenging for them, but even harder was the time that they spent keeping the information secret because they were worried about hurting ME. It broke my heart that they thought they had to protect me, and it's not healthy for them to feel like they need to keep secrets.

It was much better when it was all out, to be honest. If he's going to move in with her, he's basically forcing the issue. The only thing you can do is mitigate the damage he's about to do. [/quote]

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