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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't know that you need to explain anything to your son. Let his Dad do that part, and be there for him to talk to. I would ask a lot of open ended questions "how do you feel about that?" Validate his feelings, "It sounds like you are feeling..." but don't try to fix it or over explain.[/quote]

Mom needs to be there for the conversation. Otherwise the kid might worry that Mom doesn’t know.

Unfortunately the douchebag Dad has created a situation where the only option is to pretend this is normal and everyone is fine with it. That’s a good short-term solution for the kid. Long term it likely means the kid will have commitment and fidelity issues. [/quote]

+100

Commitment, fidelity and attachment issues are common for kids when they become adults if they had a parent walk out and put another woman before their (the child’s) needs.  Knowing what I know and have seen at 50, any kid that grew up with this should be in therapy before getting married themselves.  This stuff has a way of boiling up at midlife and when their own kids reach the age they were when mom or dad walked out for someone else.[/quote]

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