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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She sounds like a grief vulture.[/quote]

OOf.  Just looked this up and the description fits my family member, but I hope it's not a real thing??  The thing that sounded really similar was the swooping in on near strangers who start crying (during the actual funeral service) and she loudly comforting them, patting and rubbing them on the back and hugging them.  And the poor bewildered person is nearly pushing and waving her away saying "I'm fine, I'm FINE".

She's no stranger to me, but she really did go big with the loss of our child.  I mean, I could give so many examples, but the point is, it really felt like it was about her loss.  Without telling me, she wrote long letters to all my friends - who she had met only once before.

In the end, I was able to push back on her, like when she kept unloading onto me tragic story after tragic story of so-and-so, or more stories of how my child's spirit has been visiting her every day, or when she continued pressuring me to share my feelings about the loss with her.  I basically told her - I'm sorry, I know you are trying to help, but a lot of the things you are saying to me are just not helping me, and I don't want to talk about it with you. I can recommend a grief support group for you if you need someone to talk to about your loss.  As for me, I have plenty of friends to talk about this with, along with a[b] grief counselor.[/b][/quote]

You need to discuss your reaction and fixation with your grief counselor.  What you're doing here is not a healthy coping mechanism and your grief counselor will help you see that.[/quote]

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