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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does the other person know that you don’t like her? Or at least suspect? I guess it would depend if she knew and what was the reason why you didn’t like her. Big difference between “I just think she’s weird/boring” or whatever vs “she openly insulted me to my face.”[/quote]

In my case, the lady is not weird, boring or insuling; it turns out we have absolutely nothing in common. She's an outdoorsy SAH DIYer arch Republican who likes to spend the weekends hiking and camping and is very frugal with a buck. None of those apply to me :-) easy enough to make very casual conversation and not take the relationship any farther.[/quote]

Well I’d never do #1 in this case. #1 being as you said “Tell people you don't like her, and make it clear to her that you don't like her (not friendly in person, do not invite to things you organize, etc.)” I think you have to keep it surface/friendly with this person or just avoid. If someone else asked or if the other person asked, it’s ok to tell a NICE VERSION of the truth. “You know I’m a big Bernie Sanders supporter, Planned Parenthood volunteer, and I love my yearly trips to Vegas and Mexico. We just don’t have much in common and that’s ok.” But I wouldn’t make a big announcement about it to the larger group, unprompted. To me, that’s a drama attitude that I would want to avoid. [/quote]

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