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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old?  Some retired people can become very self-involved.  Also depressed people can become self-involved.  I've seen this with my mom.  I just stopped trying to change her and accepted it.[/quote]

Curious what would happen if you said: Hey I need your advice and want to run something past youZ what do you think of X versus Y for the house /kid? I’ve been looking into it. Know anything about it?

Can they respond and make sense?

These long lectures or monologues they say, do they repeat them or are they just babblers free flowing and happy to be talking to someone? [/quote]

OP here. I have tried the asking for advice thing. They have a ton of experience with home renovation so I’ve tried asking for advice in some stuff we’ve thought about doing. It goes nowhere. I asked my dad how he’d approach adding some built ins to our living room. He just shrugged and said we should just find something at IKEA (please note this is not how my dad would approach that in his own home— I don’t think he has anything IKEA at all). And then he changed the subject.

I admittedly don’t ask them for parenting advice because the stuff they say stresses me out a lot. But I look for other ways we can connect and just.... nothing.

I should also note that there was a 7 year period before I had a kid when my parents did not visit, except for my wedding. We visited them once or twice a year, but they never came here. After I had my daughter they made more of an effort, but their visits were stressful because we had a baby and my parents wanted to be entertained (planned activities, dinners out, etc.). We do it, but I never feel like there’s much visiting or quality time.

I honestly just don’t think they care for us. I’m at a point where I might be ready to let them go.[/quote]

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