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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]...and she likes someone else.

What was the correct response to this? I listened, empathized, and stated that[b] [/b]kids are pretty young (11) to know if they like boys or girls or both yet,[b] but that we can respect her choice. My son was pretty upset.  [/quote]

I am genuinely interested in this line of reasoning.  It makes sense, but is that something anyone would ever say regarding a hetero crush?  This logic only seems to apply when a young person is expressing attraction to the same gender...[/quote]

OP here. I disagree with this. I’d say this regardless. It’s important to respect anyone’s choice in who they like. I would have had the same response regardless of if this girl liked a girl or boy.

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Hey OP, I actually read your post as I think you intended it, and was wondering why people were being so harsh.  After awhile, I understood that they were criticizing the idea that you would tell your son to “respect” someone’s choice to be bisexual — which can be well meaning but has some underlying assumptions that can be problematic.  Instead, you were saying, respect their choice to like someone else.  That sounds fine to me.  As to telling him that 11 year olds don’t know who they like, your response didn’t sound bad to me, but I appreciate posters pointing out that your son apparently knows he likes girls, so why can’t someone else also know she likes both.   That’s a great point, so I think that’s the kind of thing you could incorporate into future talks, instead of implying that no 11- year old knows her preferences.[/quote]

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