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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m confused as to why you preface your post by claiming how you love living in a mostly immigrant neighborhood when it’s clear that the end result is that you and your children feel isolated and are struggling to make connections. It seems like you like the idea in theory/being able to claim your “woke” creds but not so much in practice.[/quote]
This, and I am an immigrant. My child used to go to school with many immigrant kids and heck, I felt isolated! Same as you described. Moved him to a school with many American families as well as more educated immigrant families and boom, he had playdates and birthday parties. It’s also a socioeconomic issue. [/quote]

I think these posters make good points.

You want your immigrant neighbors to know how American suburbia is supposed to work but they can’t and they don’t. Consider from the perspective that your way of doing things isn’t the right way and that you are the odd person out in the neighborhood. If you want a more diverse experience but a more traditional American suburb experience then look for neighborhoods with children of immigrant parents who are now themselves parents. They exist and will probably get you a little closer to what you want.

And some practical advice, start where you are, get to know your immediate neighbors on your street/block well even if your kid isn’t the same age. When you see them outside, speak and say hello and plan to have an actual conversation. Ask after their family - if you know them by name ask about each. Make sure to make a compliment. Appear to have all the time in the world to chat. Don’t adopt a tone of voice that you would use to speak to a child - high pitched and overly smiley.

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