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I know this is par for the course and there isn't much to do, but our family seems divided because at this point it's so much easier for one parent to take the older two someone and one to stay home with the baby. DH and I do trade off, but I definitely end up spending more time with the baby and he's with the older ones. It feels like I am missing out on a lot with the older ones, especially on some of the more fun activities.[/quote]

You're also bringing your older children and your husband closer together, and allowing you to focus on the child that needs you most. This may or may not help your framing. We usually went with the easy division of labor - DH takes the oldest, DW takes the little one.

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I guess I would just love to know when it gets better and the gap is less of an issue. Maybe when the baby no longer naps? Or maybe it's still an issue because they will always be in such different phases? Just feels so hard right now.
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We found that everything improved, scheduling-wise, when naps consolidated to a single afternoon one. But even before then, if you have two cars, remember you can let baby nap, and then join your husband. Or one parent stays in the car with a book/catches up on his or her own naps while the baby sleeps in his carseat.

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This solution sounds miserable as well. What is the f-omg point of having a family if you are always “dividing and conquring.” I don’t want to have another kid if it means I rarely get to see my husband or older kids?  Is this for real advice?  [/quote]

NP but the worst phases are temporary, and then your weekends consolidate into more of a unit with the kids playing together and family movie night and everyone coming together to clap at sister's dance recital or cheer brother's sports tournament.  It's the youngest ages with nap times to work around that are a juggling act.  I love my family of three but I'm very glad we are past those ages![/quote]

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