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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My stepson is marrying a lovely young woman. We are AA/mixed AA. His fiancée is mixed AA raised by her White mom in various WV (mostly), Ohio, and Western PA small towns. Mom had a decent pink-collar profession and I’ve gotten the sense that while money was tight, there was not poverty despite the one income. And SDTB has often talked about the economic gulf between her family and that of classmates as the main source of mistreatment in the community growing up. However, [b]stepson recently told DH and I that his fiancée’s BFF told him[/b] that there was almost constant very overt racism towards the family in HS and that’s why his fiancée was allowed to graduate a year early. [b]We’ve always wondered about that[/b] as she graduated and then took a gap year without anything to show for it or a health issue. [b]Stepson asked her mom and Mom confirmed [/b]that the atmosphere[b] in HS [/b]was so bad that the counselors allowed her to double up on some classes so she could finish in three years. [b]She also said that[/b] at least two of their moves were to escape threats of violence from racist neighbors or schoolmate’s parents. [b]Mom feels her daughter wants to pretend [/b]everything was jealousy over the family’s slightly better economic status and she’s nervous to contradict that narrative. [b]Stepson is unsure how to proceed and so are we. I think [/b]he should bring it up in their premarital counseling sessions, [b]but DH thinks[/b] there’s likely a fragility there best untested. [/quote]

I highlighted the portions of your OP that show the complete lack of boundaries and overstepping and minding/meddling in someone else's life.[/quote]

Um, he's sick. My best friend's sister's boyfriend's brother's girlfriend heard from this guy who knows this kid who's going with the girl who saw Ferris pass out at 31 Flavors last night. I guess it's pretty serious.

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