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[quote=Anonymous]I think my mother would say it's no strings, but she would give a generous birthday check with a guilt trip. I am a big saver and investor, but finally had to say if this comes with a guilt trip I don't want it. I will always thank you for gifts and show gratitude, but I don't want to be made to feel lousy and worthless because I accept it.

We didn't have a wedding for many reasons. My mother offered a certain amount to furnish our home-quite generous I thought. However she had to be involved in every purchase and I had to get her at the right time and she wanted to see the items in person. I ended up spending only a fraction of what was offered because it was never given outright and I didn't have the energy for a guilt trip each time and her input.

I helped my parents a lot as they aged because I truly cared, but the demands kept increasing and they were getting ruder about it. I set boundaries and all hell broke lose. I never heard the end of the fact we could inherit a lot and what an ungrateful bitch I was. Keep in mind there were barely any expectations for siblings who didn't live in the area. Mom finally decided she would give us some money in the end, but the rest goes toward donations toward rich people causes-nothing that helps society, just things that get her name put on things. Once she decided that she stopped being so angry and hostile and she was appreciative of what I was willing to do. She didn't feel quite so entitled and she stopped acting like the queen.[/quote]

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