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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah, well, I'll just be candid:  I'd be pissed if I shelled out a small fortune for my kid's education and they decide to stay home and be a housewife/husband.  And don't give me all this crap about how a great education makes for a better mom; you don't need THAT great an education to raise children well.  Seriously.[/quote]

Just let them know beforehand that your tuition payments are 100% conditional on them working outside the home and everything that entails.  If my parents offered me tuition money contingent upon me doing what they wanted me to do as an adult, I hope I'd have the good sense  to say "no thanks."  [/quote]

What that PP needs is a legally binding contract with her kids so that she can recover the tuition and damages if they fail to make her tuition payments worthwhile in her view by working outside the house. Oops -- children by law can't enter into contracts because they are not deemed to have the necessary judgment. Too bad. [/quote]

Some of you PP’s are being snarky, but it is sort of a legitimate point. If you got scholarships and took out loans to finance your own education, it is easy to be guilt-free.   But I will admit that consideration for my parents’ sacrifices did shape the way I viewed my professional options. I did not go Ivy, but I attended undergrad at Stanford and have a graduate degree from U of Chicago.  Honestly, my parents probably would not have cared much had I decided to be a SAHM raising their grandchildren.  But in my own mind, I KNOW the sacrifices they made and the things they did not do for themselves so that I could attend Stanford.  I did not feel I was wasting my talent, I felt I would be wasting their money.  Truth be told, I could have gone to Big State U at a third of the cost and been just as effective a SAHM.  And that is a legitimate feeling.[/quote]

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