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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’d run it by a friend first maybe. I knew someone who did this (and earnestly thought he was confronting about mistreatment) [b] but the content was “all my friends  got to go to Europe but you never took me to Europe!” And “you shouldn’t have let me quit piano when I wanted and if I had kept playing I’d be great now!” [/b]

Don’t send one like that! [/quote]

Those complaints might sound stupid, but they tend to point to something bigger. Likely, checked out parents.[/quote]

Eh, it likely points to a young adult during the height of the navel gazing phase - write the letter if you must, DON’T ever send it, look back on it in 10-15 years (preferably when you’ve had many years of parenting your own kids under your belt), cringe, and then burn it. [/quote]

Based on your attitude, I would just keep you at arm’s length or cut ties.[/quote]

Well, I speak from experience as the child who went through a phase of judging my parents incredibly harshly and wanting to blame them for everything - then I grew up.  Sure they’re not perfect, but they were doing the best they could. [/quote]

I sent such and email, parents haven’t really acknowledged or changed, grew up and now am worried about my kids and how my parents will treat them. So because they never worked on anything we will probably just move far away. This is what you risk OP.[/quote]

+1[/quote]

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