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[quote=Anonymous]I once had a specialist GYN (not OB) tell me that it's probably that more than 50% of pregnancies end in miscarriage, but that a lot of women don't know it because they spontaneous m/c before a missed period is noticed, so the m/c seems like a late period.   I don't know, but as someone who has suffered two m/c (blighted ovum) and a bad CVS result (T18), I suspect for me it was old eggs.  My lost pregnancies were at 37, 42 and 43.  I had one stick at 37/38 and another stick at 43/44.      So many things have to happen right for a pregnancy to stick and go to term, then there are so many things that can go wrong that have nothing to do with the baby.

I wish the OP the best.  Having had so many losses, I still don't believe I am holding my 2 month old.  I expect her to go poof as I awake from the dream.   I have already shaken her awake at least twice because I am so afraid something will happen to her.  I know the feeling is unfounded because I have a beautiful 6 year old that seemed to survive my parenting.

As for telling anyone, I had to tell a wonderful college friend who called the other day that I have a new baby.  She was shocked.  I had to explain that I was in such disbelief that I was pregnant that I wasn't telling anyone til I was sure it would end well, and by then I was six month pregnant.  How do you call someone at 6 months pregnant and say "all those time I spoke to you, I didn't want to tell you because I had an irrational fear of losing the baby."  My husband thought I was insane for not announcing it by email or facebook or some way.

Anyway, the terror doesn't stop, it just morphs into being a parent.   When the kicking starts, it's reassuring, but then when the baby is asleep, you wonder why the baby isn't kicking more.   Once the baby is born, and the baby actually sleeps more than 3 hours, you'll wonder why she hasn't woken up yet to eat, so you'll lie there losing sleep debating whether to wake her up or not.   It will always be something.  But it is all worth it in the end.  Good Luck.[/quote]

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