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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think this usually happens when a parent of an only thinks little larlo is a great veggie eater (or sharer or sleeper) because of their genius parenting, whereas moms of more than one are more acutely aware of the extent to which things like that are due to temperament, etc. [/quote]

Ok but I think this is only true if Larlo’s mom is going around telling all the other moms how to get their kids to eat vegetables. If she just says “Larlo loves veggies, it’s great” that might be an annoying brag (especially if, like me, it’s hard to get your kid to eat veggies), but I don’t think it merits the kind of “just you wait— you’ll see” attitude you often get from moms of multiples or moms with slightly older kids.

But I think “just you wait— you’ll see” is always a silly statement. It always comes off as a weird threat, like you can’t let the younger or less experienced mom just enjoy the current stage, you have to warn her that something harder/worse/more complicated is coming.

But it’s also often not true. I know it’s hard to accept, but not every tough think you go through with your kids is universal. Many times in my life as a parent, another parents has told me something specific was coming and it... didn’t. Instead we had other challenges. That’s how it goes. Everyone takes their own path, no one has it all figured out. So enough with the “you’ll see”. Yes, she will, soon enough. You don’t have to be rude about it.[/quote]

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