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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I still stand by its weird. I knew him for almost a year before the pandemic. Never once asked to hang out alone or go out. The whole pandemic he never initiated any contact or asked to hang out. He is a friend of a friend and we don’t talk much. Then all of the sudden he asks me to hang out at his place. If it’s a date, why not ask me to go to dinner or something that doesn’t involve going to his apartment in the evening to hang out? He isn’t shy and had no issues with women since I’ve known him. I would assume he didn’t like me and decided not to make a move, but he asked me to hang out again. [/quote]

It is strange to you because of what you are accustomed to. Your take is foreign to me, because of what I am accustomed to. You’ve received honest and meaningful feedback. Hopefully it isn’t wasted and you use thus opportunity to try something different than what you have been prone to accept. Good luck. He seems nice.[/quote]

OP here. What am I accustomed to? What have I been prone to accept? I said I don’t sleep around. I’ve only ever had sex with men I’ve been in relationship with, and the sex only happened after multiple dates. I’ve only been 4 me and I’m in my thirties. Sex usually happened on the date I went to his place. It’s not rocket science to think guy who I rarely know and never talk to wants sex if he invites me over to hang out. That’s not a date to me.[/quote]

You seem to only associate a man’s casual acquaintance with some level of romance or dating interest. While most men do have an interest, rhwre is a lot of room for forging genuine connections otherwise if you’re open to it. I don’t care how many people you have been with or slept with it isn’t my business and I don’t judge. I do think that by the same token you shouldn’t judge this man by operating differently from those you usually interact with. Expand your experience. Men can be fragile and there are many of us who want their natural inclination encouraged, not discarded if it doesn’t work.

Of course you aren’t responsible for anyone but yourself so thus is not intended to put any blame or responsibility on you for how he reacts to your acceptance/rejection. My hope is that your aperture has opened a bit for exposure so you leave this thread with a broader perspective and not a very narrow theory that you need disproven in your mind. Good luck to both of you.[/quote]

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