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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, one, you're a good friend. Thank you for being an ear for this person. Two, it's not an easy thing to hear, and it's hard to watch once you know about it. Make sure you aren't alone and share this with YOUR safe place (therapist, another close friend, etc.).

Having been in an abusive relationship, I can tell you that leaving is not simple. And I can also tell you that saying the thing out loud to a friend is a big step in a very non-linear journey. It's very easy to feel isolated and/or crazy in that situation. Having another person tell you that it's not your imagination, things are f**ked up, can be helpful in getting out of that mindset. I know i needed that reflected back to me in order to leave. 
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OMG, yes, it's part of the crazy-making.  To hear someone else say that behavior is abusive is very helpful, especially if it is verbal or emotional abuse.  I knew that being hit was abusive, but I didn't understand that the lying, punching a wall, telling me something is wrong with ME, etc. was emotional and verbal abuse. [/quote]

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