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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What a silly thread.

OP, I suggest some reading on memory, which operates very differently for different people. I have a number of friends with few memories of childhood, and not because they’re victims of childhood trauma - some people form and retain memory very differently than others. You also have no idea what physical or psychological issues this woman might have that could have impacted her memory.

Just the other day I was thinking about my middle school experience and the boy who was my first boyfriend. I had a mad crush on him, and we dated for the better part of a year, went to school dances and to movies together and double dated with my bestie and his bestie. I remember my bestie who is still in my life, but I cannot recall my boyfriend’s name or the name of his best friend. I have a vague recollection of what might be their first names, but certainly don’t knew their full names. No middle school yearbooks to consult either. If I met him again tomorrow or saw him on Facebook I very likely wouldn’t recognize him because many people’s faces change a terrific amount from middle school to middle age. Still in my heart I will always retain fondness for David, or Danny, or Dylan? My first real boyfriend.

The things that stay sharp in our memories are usually the memories we visit over and over and over again - we burn those neural pathways deeper and deeper in our brains, while all the memories we don’t revisit often, or at all, fall away from our easy recollection. It seems very likely that this woman hasn’t thought of your husband in decades, which is why she doesn’t remember his face or his family’s vacation home.

Don’t worry yourself about her.[/quote]

That's interesting. How old are you? I'm 41 and I can tell you everybody from my elementary school classes, including last names, and the names of all of my teachers. I think I must have a very good memory.[/quote]

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