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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Anyone else in a family where none of the siblings speak to each other? Is it ok? Just accept and move on?[/quote]

OP, [b]you can try to help them reconcile,[/b] but ultimately, this is likely to be out of your control, and you risk your own relationships with these siblings if you are seen as taking sides.  It's hard, but yes, you may have to just accept and move on.

Try to be an adult about it...I rarely speak to my sister, but we know to at least put on a show of caring for and about each other the once or twice a year when we are around my parents.  [/quote]

This is the last thing anyone should be butting into. The time to intervene is when the trouble is brewing. If there are concerning dynamics in childhood, mom should get help and not assume it's normal. If you witness concerning things maybe say something, but by the time they are moving to estrangement, you are not going to fix it. Do not take sides. Be respectful to both parties and do not insert yourself. You try to help when there are small sparks. You can cannot easily put out a 5 alarm fire that has already destroyed a building.

Typical things that lead to sibling estrangement:
-narcissistic parents pitting them against eachother
-Golden Child/scapegoat dynamic
-emotional/physical/sexual and/or verbal abuse by sibling
-being a backseat driver giving commands throughout eldercare, minimizing the other siblings concerns-the one actually THERE and not understanding the scope of the situation over a period of years and years
-criminal behavior
-personality disorders
-total lack of empathy
-unequal inheritance

These are not things where aunt Betsy needs to have a chat with both parties so they can fix it. Some relationships are not meant to continue and the disturbing need to pretend a family is harmonious is what needs help.[/quote]

Yeah, it kind of makes me feel better to see so several of my own reasons on this list! Although parents AND sibling would deny.[/quote]

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