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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What if they sleep on the couch? Who says they have to be in the same bed? [/quote]

Exactly. Or what if you have a platonic relationship with someone?  Maybe they can't drive home for some reason (weather's bad, couple of glasses of wine...) and you don't want them out on the road.  When other parent hears they've stayed overnight, will they go running to a lawyer and take it to court?  [/quote]

Why would you have these people in your house late at night? I had a violin tutor who had a spare bedroom and still did lessons in the living room just because it sounds bad to do "lessons in the bedroom". I have a hard time believing the single parent is giving their kids the attention they deserve with all these "nightly visitors". If the other parent has some days of custody I really have to wonder why the dating parent can't do their "night visitor" visits when they don't have kids. Really gives me the impression the dating parent is putting themselves before their kids. [/quote]

My ex initially wanted a clause that said no opposite sex visitors allowed to stay the night (yes that vague).  We'd been separated for almost 2 years at that point and 3 men had spent the night at my house in that time, all in the guest bedroom, all just friends.  One was the godfather of one of my kids and was visiting from another country with his wife.  One was escaping his powerless house after the derecho with his cats in tow.  The other was an old friend who was in town and stayed with me for 1 night.  I have full physical custody so I don't have away from my kids nights.

I ended up relenting to a more tailored clause that said no overnights with romantic partners of less than 6 mo.  In the end, I didn't introduce my kids to my now fiance until we had been together over a year.  My ex on the other hand married a women he had known for only 2 months and introduced to the kids only days before marrying her.[/quote]

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