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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have one of these clauses -- have to be dating for a year before having a romantic partner overnight with kids -- and frankly I don't remember giving it much thought at the time.  My lawyer put it in there, so I figured it was standard. I'm very glad to have it, as my ex has asked for my permission to "break" the clause for multiple women that he has been seeing. I'm glad my kids are not exposed to that mess. And I'm fine waiting the year.  Seems reasonable to me. [/quote]

As others have said, how can something like this be enforced?  I think most people agree that exposing children to a revolving door of unknown romantic partners is not a good idea.

On the other hand, when does the "one year" clock begin ticking?

Let's say parent knows someone for several years as a friend/frequent acquaintance. Maybe the person already knows you and your kids from other activities like school, sports, church, etc.  You start out with a couple of casual dinners or drinks here or there.  It then happens on a more regular basis.  Friend begins visiting your house and hanging out, having dinner with all of you or doing activities together.

So when does the one-year dating rule take effect in a situation like this?  When does "romantic partner" officially occur?  Is it the first date?  First kiss?  First sexual encounter?  Who is going to police this?  Can the ex demand some sort of proof?

I can't even imagine a judge trying to muddle through this crap. 
 
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It starts when the new couple decides to not see anybody else

I bet its [b]easier to enforce than you'd think[/b] because the [b]kids don't want mom or dad being taken over by a random third party [/b]and will rat them out, esp if the 3rd party isn't very nice to them [/quote]

That criteria may work in a dreamland fairy tale but it's not realistic for normal adults who have a basic understanding of the law.  Bolded is another unrealistic attitude. I guess you don't have much dating experience as an adult.   
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Adult? You sound like a 16 year old hanging out with random boyfriends at the back of the bus. You're dating or you're not. If you're "maybe" dating then you're not dating. Grow up. How old are you, 50?

As for the bolded, I have the experience of my narc mom marrying a 3rd time a man 20 years her junior and not understanding why I don't want to visit her house with my children and expose them to this nasty +1 man. Oh, and he's had a DUI and hit her dog. [/quote]

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