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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Isn't your nanny the one who has the most experience with your child's naps? Why don't you trust her judgment on what your child needs during the day? Since she is presumably handling this 5 days a week and you're only handling it 2 days a week.[/quote]

Also, it's possible he's started to have problems at night again because he's underslept because you're forcing him to soothe himself to sleep at naps (and it sounds like he's missing out on a lot of daytime sleep because of that). Maybe your nanny can tell he's under-rested and just wants to make sure he takes good naps, vs. sticking to the sleep training schedule. [/quote]

I really respectfully disagree with this sentiment that often comes up on DCUM. Yes she has experience with more babies than I do, but every parent is different and part of her job is also to implement things the parent wants. And every baby is different so what may have worked for a previous kid, may not work for mine - if it's affecting his settling at bedtime, it doesn't work for us. I don't know if it is, which is why I posed the question.

It is possible that nights are being affected by day sleep but he's actually getting great naps (3 hours on average between the two naps), both before and after she started rocking him to sleep again. It's possible that he's still adjusting to having dropped the 3rd nap though, and it has nothing to do with confusion between caregivers style though.[/quote]

I wasn't talking about how she has "experience with more babies." I'm talking about how she has more daytime experience with YOUR child than you do. I just think you should take her opinion into account since she's the one with your son for 70% of his naps.[/quote]

You’re right, I totally misread that. We do take her opinion into account but at the end of the day, I’m home and hear what’s going on- it’s not like he’s crying hysterically and fighting naps all of a sudden, she’s just reverted back to rocking at the slightest fuss and not giving him a chance. So I am sure that’s the way she is most comfortable caring for him, but I do wonder if it’s confusing to him.  [/quote]

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