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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why wouldn’t you? It’s a sickness. Nothing to do with you, and lying about doctor’s appointments is not your business. [/quote]

For me, it was that a co-worker was obsessed about food. She almost seemed to want to fatten other people up. And she had a LOT of emotion invested in "just being genetically this way" while we could hear her throwing up after parties, or see her gulping liters of bone broth. It's not pleasant to be around. [/quote]

That behavior is not a symptom of anorexia.

I am the recovered anorexic above and I never comment on what others are eating (except my kids- as in, eat more veggies, yogurt, less sugar- normal parenting stuff).

I can be sensitive about people commenting on what I eat if it comes from judgement, but I will generally just avoid people who do what the person you describe above is doing when they start with the judgement. Since this is a coworker, if you walk away when they do this, eventually they will stop the comments.[/quote]

Having anorexia does not make you an expert on ever behavior they show. This actually is not an uncommon thing for anorexia-at least quite a few people I have known with it. Quite a few pretended to be genetically thin or were obsessed with feeding other people baked goods. They were a dime a dozen at sororities where I went to school-verified anorexics and/or bulimics who have been in and out of treatment programs. Had an anorexic apartment-mate in college and while we really wanted to be supportive in any way we could, within 6 months all of us were drained by all the things the girls therapist thought WE should be doing to support her at least according to her. It was a 1-way friendship and the behaviors seemed to get more and more disturbing despite the fact she was in therapy twice a week. We ended up calling her parents and reporting all the concerns because we were afraid she might need to be hospitalized. She took a medical leave. As soon as she came back, she was back to her old ways with her new roommates.[/quote]

It sounds like your friendship ended.

Blaming your former friend’s eating disorder for your friendship ending is really immature.

Correlation does not imply causation like the PP said.[/quote]

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