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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, first snowman and Christmas lights aren't accomplishments (although they are wonderful and special moments to experience as a mom with your young children!).  The way that you are presenting them that way in your original post makes me think that yes, you may be overdoing your updates, even to your grandparents.  When I first read your post, I thought you were talking about real accomplishments, like your son making first violin in the orchestra etc.  !!  Halve your updates and see if you start to get responses from the grandparents (and like PP said, don't need to loop in aunts/uncles).  [/quote]

This this this.

OP, I'm sure you're a lovely person, and I guess you send the kinds of things many of us might post on Facebook-- more of a little/daily/weekly snapshot of our lives, less actual "accomplishments"-- what you listed aren't even small accomplishments to me, and some a stretch to even call milestones.

But w/FB, there's less pressure for any one individual to "like" or respond, because it's throwing something out there to a ton of people. There's a sort of implied bystander effect. When you're sending a group text or something to a very select group of people (<25)... that's a lot, and would feel like pressure and get annoying IMO. Grandparents are generally the exception, of course, but it does depend on the grandparents.

It's also possibly the case that people actually don't mind your sharing (texts?) at all, but sort of the opposite of what I said above-- they're just like, oh, that's cute, and move on, figuring they don't need comment. That would go to your original post-- "I think back like maybe that wasn't as big of a moment as I thought." Yeah, based on the things you listed? They're not big, comment-worthy items, for the most part.

My cousin's partner does a "Shared Album" (iPhone/iOS) for their toddler, and I'm on that chain. It's just photos and videos, no words. She posts a few times a week. I glance at it occasionally but it doesn't annoy me even though I can easily get overwhelmed with notifications. I'm not super into it, but it's a zero annoyance/small benefit sort of thing for me, so it's fine. Maybe if there were words, and especially if there were something like, "Larla dances to Winter Wonderland for the first time! Can you believe she's never heard it before? They grow up so fast! Treasuring these days <3 <3 <3" or something... it would get annoying. But I'm just the cousin-in-law, YK? A lot of grandparents would eat that up.   [/quote]

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