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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He's being insensitive, but he's right about the will. Unless she's signed a prenup, she'll likely be entitled to at least 50% of his assets, as well as all of his retirement accounts.  So if you were counting on that, forget about it. [/quote]

Yes, just because husband is being a jerk about it, doesn't mean he's entirely wrong.  It is a concern.  And it can be awkward AF to discuss, and you can state that up front.  If there are currently understandings in place about inheritance (whatever that may be), then now is a very good time to bring it up and say "hey, I would like to have this discussion now, so we are all on the same page.  Before mom died, I understood that you were planning to do X and Y – is that something that is going to change?"  But this is your conversation to have with your father.  And if you genuinely don't care (and won't in the future) then you don't have to do anything.  [/quote]

I would not have this conversation. Your mother chose to leave everything to your father. That was her choice. And he will now choose what to do with it. I wouldn't put emotional pressure on him like this.[/quote]

He will choose what to do with it..with the help of his new wife. I think it's potentially difficult to ask about the money, because he may need that money now or anticipate needing it in the future. (I think if OP's parents are objectively wealthy, it might be different.) But asking about tangible objects seems easier. Rationally speaking, the dad's new wife shouldn't want his deceased wife's jewelry or family photos. It's much easier to talk about them now than once a new wife is in the house and has laid claim to them.[/quote]

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