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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]don't fall for the guilt trip! let them come to u!![/quote]

Always and forever?  Once you have a child you no longer have any obligation to the people who GAVE BIRTH TO YOU? I understand not wanting to travel very much (or at all) during the first few months.  But, traveling with a six month old is easier than traveling with a toddler (or a toddler AND a baby, which is usually how it works.) I say travel now and build up some good will for later when it really will be much harder.

How is it a guilt trip for people to point out that life involves engaging in recipricol relationships in which both parties give and take?  Ask them to come (on a specific weekend and plan a specific event i.e. "Its Baby's first trip to the zoo and we want you to be part of it.") AND offer to go (maybe for a specific event that you pick i.e "Dad's birthday is next month. We wanted to come up and celebrate for the day.")

For those of you who won't travel to see family, have you just given up on being part of an extended, multi-generational family unless that family agrees to revolve entirely around you? [/quote]

Not OP, but we do have at least a reciprocal relationship. However, my in-laws travel more frequently and further for the other child & grandchildren (not ours) who don't travel to see them ever. So we no longer feel obligated to visit frequently given their lack of enthusiasm to visit us. I'd rather spend $$$ to fly to see my family who are much more interactive and fun for all of us.

Another problem is access to certain family members, i.e. 10 hour drive, no direct flights / no central airport. We can't travel to see someone who is 5 hour 1-stop flight plus 1 hour drive or 3 hour flight, 3 hour drive. It's just too much travel over a holiday weekend and our vacation time is very limited.[/quote]

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