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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a group of mom friends in my neighborhood and our children play together. They're great, we're not best friends but it's nice to have people to talk to, as within my personal friends group, we are the only one with children.

One of my mom friends recently made a comment to me that she thinks it's "great I don't care what I look like and I don't put in too much effort." she followed up by she finds it "stressful getting up early to exercise everyday and get ready for the day."

I'm not sure if I'm being too sensitive (probably) but it hurt my feelings. I had DS 5 years ago and DD about 1 year ago. I've struggled to lose the weight. I'm 5'4 pre pregnancy I was about 120, but now I am around 150. I have just been overwhelmed with work, navigating a pandemic with 2 children at home, and other stresses.

I don't particularly dress sloppy but I am not into designer clothes and wear little to no makeup. Mostly wear workout gear (even though I haven't worked out in a while lol, and just basics).

It hurt my feelings but I don't even know if I have a reason to be hurt?[/quote]

No, that's definitely a nasty little remark, OP. It is the definition of a backhanded compliment. I don't think there's any value in talking to her about this remark now, since the moment has passed, but it seems likely she will make a similar comment in the future, and if she does, [b]I would respond with something like, "Wow, ouch. That's a pretty rude thing to say to another mom. I'm sorry you are stressed out by prioritizing exercise, but please don't take it out on me.[/b]"[/quote]

[b]I would respond with something like, "Wow, ouch. That's a pretty rude thing to say to another mom. I'm sorry you are stressed out by prioritizing exercise, but please don't take it out on me.[/b]

NP here - Oh, my god, that is PERFECT!!  I might have to write it down and spend time memorizing that statement for when someone says something like this to me.  I can NEVER come up with something like this on the fly,,.  
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