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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The timing of this complain doesn't make much sense.  So you've been doing the 2 days in person, plus the tutor, for half the school year. Is it absolutely untenable? Are your kids miserable? If not, why not just stick it out for the remainder of the school year.

It's not even a money thing (or at least not exclusively). How would your kids feel about leaving their current schools and friends so that they can move to a new school, midyear, where they might not know anyone, might be behind or ahead of the curriculum, aren't involved in any extra-curricular, etc.? Unless your kids are having other issues that you aren't mentioning here, most elementary and middle school kids would rather get 2 days a week of school with their current friends than go to a brand new school 5 days a week.

I might feel differently if you had no in-person school at all. But you have 2 days, and the tutor seems like a good way to address the other days.

My husband is frugal bordering on cheap. What this means is that sometimes I have to argue him into doing take-out twice in the same week. Not wanting to spend tens of thousands of dollars for a half year of education that your kids might not even get any additional benefit from (and may actually really hate) isn't frugal or cheap. It's just reasonable.[/quote]

Op here. I wouldn’t pull them this year, I’m talking about for next year.

I’ve been reading all the reports about schools not planning to open for 5 day instruction next year with great dismay.

Sounds like many are planning on offering hybrid at most.

While better than nothing, hybrid is clearly far from ideal.[/quote]

But what do your kids think? How would they feel about switching schools for a year? I know DL and hybrid are disruptive, but so is changing schools for a year. Again, if your kids are having issues with the current set up, I might be on your side here. I wouldn't hesitate to send my kid to private 5-day school if there was a problem with hybrid that was causing noticeable academic or social or mental health problems. You have take care of your kids. But from what you've said, your kids are doing fine. So my inclination would be to stick it out, even if it means another full year of hybrid because I would not want to disrupt my kids yet again.

What if you switch, spend 70k, and one more of your kids absolutely hates the new school and is miserable? That is a very real possibility, especially if you're talking MS and upper elementary. It's not like younger kids. Consistency is really important at this stage.[/quote]

OP here. They don’t want to switch of course. This is a real issue. However, I really think they need to be in school every day, especially the middle schooler. DH had to take over supervising his schoolwork because there have been many instances of him either actively lying to us about doing his work, doing a lazy/half assed job on it, forgetting to hit submit, forgetting to go to zoom classes, losing his work between the shuffle of home and school, and on and on. It’s been one thing after another with him, none of which would have happened without the pandemic and schools closing. There’s been a lot of stress in our family because we keep having these discoveries that he’s not doing his work or going to zoom class (yesterday’s discovery and what prompted my renewed desire for private school) and having to be on his case about it. Plus he’s becoming addicted to video games.[/quote]

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