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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP — talk to her. Tell her how you feel. See how she feels. Drop the idea that you’re right or she’s right. It doesn’t matter and neither of you is objectively right. You two just need to come to an agreement that you both can live with. [b]Ask her to step back if you’re already dealing with something. Be prepared that she might ask you to be more assertive. [/b]You each get to have concerns that the other person should try to meet. It won’t go just one way (i.e. that she has to take a step back but you don’t have to make any changes). [/quote]

NP, and I agree with this, particularly the bolded.  I'd also push you to make sure that if something is agreed upon as "yours" to deal with, you make sure that it is completely off of her plate.  You take ownership and responsibility for a task end-to-end.  I know a lot of times I (woman) have done a bunch of "invisible work" that was stressful, and then something (even something minor) goes off plan and it just puts me over the edge because I've thought of 50 other details leading up to it and now there's THIS.

Also, as others have said - depression, general COVID stress, etc.   [/quote]

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