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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Posters trash people that reconcile after an affair.  Even if somebody was faithful for 20 years, the family/marriage was happy, the cheater is extremely remorseful and in individual therapy.  [b]They call the woman (oddly not the men) all kinds of names[/b]...spineless, weak, etc.  80% do not divorce and many of those are women that are working and successful.

Marriages can end up being stronger and more fulfilling in the 2nd half when blown open and rebuilt.  Not all situations are the same yet this board comes at it as if all cheaters/people and type of affairs are the same.  Some cheaters are awful, some are not.

I agree there is a real delusion from some women about how great divorce will be financially for them.  [b]They often are shocked at the financial situation after.[/b]

The grass isn’t greener a lot of the time.[/quote]

Life is more than this. It was financially rough for many years. However, it was SO PEACEFUL. I could come home to that two bedroom apartment and the atmosphere was so peaceful and happy. My oldest had to relearn how to laugh and enjoy herself at home without fear of triggering an angry man. You can’t buy tranquility and feeling relaxed.[/quote]

That’s your personal experience though.  A lot of people’s spouses were not angry or bad fathers or yelling/critical.  Not even bad to their wives at home.

Nobody knows anyone else’s situation.  They come at it through their own experience.

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This board is mostly women.  Women are very mean to other women a lot of the time.  Also, some had truly awful husbands/marriages so don't understand that everyone has a different situation.  It's a not a 'one-size fits all'.[/quote]

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