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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am the OP. Thanks for the opinions. I called a lawyer the day after she told me about the affair and wanting out of the marriage. So, I feel good about the advice I am getting. I am in the house and will not leave. I have obviously never touched her in an abusive manner, but I appreciate the fact that she may say things or coax me into something that can be perceived as threatening, but always good to keep in mind. The kids don't know about the affair yet, but they know we are heading toward divorce. So that is something else on the horizon for her when they eventually find out the truth.

I will smile and continue to take the high road in front of the kids. I won't bad mouth her or what she has done. But...I will not be pushed around by her or her new boyfriend. I have nobody waiting for me as she does with her new side piece, so I have all the time in the world.[/quote]

Yes, I am an XW here that went through a nasty divorce. In the middle of a fight, he called 911 and claimed I slapped him in the face. I merely brushed against him to pick up our daughter, who was crying. Four months later, when I finally left him, he tried to get a protective order and had me charged with 2nd degree assault. His story changed at every hearing. First, he said I slapped him in the face, then he said I hit him repeatedly for 3 minutes. Then he said I hit him repeatedly while we were holding our daughter for 10 minutes.

He was not successful, but the result is that I had to take an anger management class as a part of a pre-trial agreement, because there was a 911 tape of him claiming I slapped him. That was $5,000 on lawyers to squash both and a 12 week class I had to pay $240 for. My entire divorce cost $130,000 and only because I represented myself at trial. I burned through my entire retirement on lawyers. We're about to go back to court for a custody modification, which he is turning into another $50,000 fight. Ugh.

Whatever you do, if she calls 911, just stand down. Don't touch her anymore. And don't fight. Just ignore her.

If she hits you, do call police and make a report.[/quote]

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