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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Check your Divorce Agreement.  Mine states that the Party will introduce the new SO to the other Party if/when the SO is introduced to the kids, which should not happen prior to 6 months.[/quote]

I do not know why anyone would put that in a divorce agreement. I certainly did not.[/quote]

New poster here. It's called a morality clause, and nearly everyone I know has one. Having said that, every divorce attorney will warn you that it's not enforceable. It's pretty standard for divorces with kids around here in DC, Bethesda, CC at least. It makes people pause before introducing a revolving door of boyfriends and girlfriends to their kids.

I suppose if you have a do-it-yourself or a simple divorce, you might not think of it. 
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We have a similar clause in our agreement. Ex completely ignores it. He has exposed/introduced our DC to a revolving door of women both during our divorce and since our divorce was finalized (the temp agreement was actually more stringent; no exposure to paramours ever, period). I've lost count of how many women. Some had children, some did not (yes, they introduced each other's children). I know this because DC tells me. It's awful. Ex uses DC as "bait" to attract women and pretend he's Dad of the Year. Reality is, he's a horrible parent with horrendous judgement. Obviously.

Of course those clauses in the temp and final orders apply to me as well. I have not dated, at all. I'm not interested. I'm working to heal myself after this nightmare and focus on building the best life for me and DC. When the time comes that I do date again, I will absolutely not introduce anyone to DC until it is very serious.

All this to say, ex doesn't tell me anything. And I don't ask. DC tells me (without me asking). It's absolutely horrible, but there's nothing I can do about it. The only thing I can do is provide the healthiest, most stable home environment for DC when DC is with me. And if DC asks any questions or needs any support, I'm always there to give it. 
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