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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is worth repeating.

Secret Affairs do NOT save marriages.

Five years after undergoing therapy, only 43% of couples who revealed and worked through their past indiscretions had opted for divorce, [b]while a whopping 80% of couples whose marriages contained secret affairs were no longer together.[/b]  This means the spouse never found out about the secret affair---yet 80% (80%!!) were divorced 5 years later.  These are very unhealthy marriages.

On the surface, these numbers seem a little bit surprising. After all, if the betrayed partner doesn’t know about their spouse’s infidelity, it can’t hurt them, right? Wrong. As it turns out, lies and deceit don’t exactly make for a healthy relationship. Furthermore, when a cheating spouse admits to an affair, it usually means that the affair is over. By confessing to the infidelity, the unfaithful partner is often indicating that they are ready to live their life in a committed relationship once again. If their spouse can find forgiveness and also move on, then there might be a lot of hope for the relationship yet.[/quote]

In a sexless marriage, there is no such thing as “living in a committed relationship once again”.  That option was removed by the sexless wife. Her avoidance of sex has doomed the marriage to certain divorce, because normal healthy men do not stay celibate.

Why is this so hard for you to grasp? If a husband isn’t getting sex from his wife ... that marriage is 100% certain to divorce. The one and only way to avoid divorce is he gets sex elsewhere. In other words, his affair enables their platonic room mate marriage to continue (ie, the sexless marriage is saved from divorce).[/quote]

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